Counseling for Asexuality in Seattle
Kristen Martinez, M.Ed., Ed.S., LMHCA, NCC
I have a passion for working with folks who have diverse sexual and romantic orientations. Whether you identify as asexual, ace, demisexual, gray-A, are questioning or exploring an asexual or aromantic/aro orientation, or fall anywhere on the larger spectrum of asexuality, I welcome the opportunity to support you.
I focused my graduate work on special issues affecting the LGBT+ population and became a vocal supporter for LGBT+ rights to my classmates, friends, professors, and community. In my studies, I conducted research on gay men’s coming out experiences, conceptualized HIV in the transgender community, critiqued research examining lesbian and gay couple work-life balance, wrote an introduction to feminist therapy, and proposed research on transgender discrimination within the LGBT community. I know that there are mixed feelings in the larger community about whether asexual folks belong in or out of the LGBT+ umbrella, but I respect wherever you fall on the subject.
You may be experiencing some stress, worry, or anxiety. Maybe you’re feeling sad, lonely, confused, or hopeless. You might be angry, frustrated, shocked, or upset. You might be concerned that your friends or family just may not “get it”. These feelings are tempting to hide with drugs or alcohol, isolation from friends and family, risky sexual behaviors, self-injury, or other harmful coping behaviors, but they won’t go away unless you can face them head-on.
Kristen’s Counseling Approach
Questioning your identity can be scary. Coming to terms with an asexual identity in a largely sexual culture and world may be challenging for you. Living with that identity might be even more difficult. It can be hard to accept yourself as you truly are when all you see is hatred and ignorance around you. Stigma and discrimination are real. There is nothing wrong with you; it is the culture all around you that is damaged.
Asexual Affirming Counseling
If you need support, I would be honored to give you a safe space to explore these issues. Asexual-affirmative counseling and therapy is empowering, understanding, and proactive. Together we can build a foundation of trust that encourages you to cultivate stronger relationships with your loved ones, validate and de-stigmatize your identity, increase your self-esteem and confidence, and be at peace with and love who you really are.
Asexual-affirmative counseling and therapy underscores that your sexual and romantic orientation (or lack of) is only one facet of your identity. You have multiple identities that may waver in importance or salience at any point in time. What you come into counseling for may have nothing at all to do with this facet of your identity, and I understand this important distinction.